Human Vermin: Integrity And Confidence Provide The Best Protection
In Northern Kentucky pest control is an issue like everywhere else. On the other side of the Ohio River, Cincinnati pest control is problem like anywhere else. Pest control is the process of removing the vermin, animals and insects that damage valuable property, or bring discomfort to our way of life. A basic way of controlling pests is by creating barriers that keep them from establishing in the area to be protected. This is a lesson that can be easily carried over to our day to day life. Many folks have friends and acquaintances that offer support and camaraderie. A lot of folks also interact with associates, family or friends that bring discomfort and sometimes damage into their life. Learning to deal with these intrusions is similar to dealing with pests.
Termites can exist in a building causing damage long before they are detected. The same is true of certain personalities and associates that we all have to deal with. A mother continually mention how well the neighbors son is doing what a great doctor he has become. The comment may chew at the beams that support self-esteem, the implied unspoken message being your lack of obvious success. Perhaps the vice-president of get in your face is constantly finding the little grammatical errors in every well researched and incredibly brilliant report submitted. Unlike termites, you can’t poison these people, but you can make the environment inhospitable for them.
Most of the attacks on ones self-esteem can be easily defended like a brilliant Aikido move that takes the energy of the attacker and transforms it into something harmless and may even throw the attacker off balance. If someone says or does something that stings, the first question should always concern why the comment or action caused a reaction. If a comment offends, then either it is because they have hit upon a truth that needs to be addressed, or it is because there is more value placed on their opinion then ones own.
A person in complete integrity with their values will not hear criticism in a comment, but instead hear a suggestion they can use to improve or a piece of advice that holds no value and may even be seen as amusing. Nothing throws off a critic more than a serious accounting of their suggestion. An athlete committed to improving his game takes the coaches comments as guidance and incentive. If the vice president of get in your face is hung up on the typos, a vulnerable person may feel inadequate while a person focused on the big picture may quickly turn the tables by acknowledging the typos as a simple problem easy to correct and asking the boss for suggestions to improve the content and not the form. Suddenly the boss is redirected to deal with the important issues and leave the nit-picking to his secretary.
When someone is motivated by their own conscience they develop immunity to others petty behavior and mean spirited comments. By maintaining the high road, the pesky intrusion of others loses its sting. Even if Aunt Bessie’s boy is a successful Doctor you can always respond to the offending parent, “good for him, I hope he is as happy and content with his life as I am”.
Connor R. Sullivan read recently of a Northern Kentucky pest control problem which is causing damage to area homes. He heard of a Cincinnati pest control problem in certain neighborhoods of the city.
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